The
Oakland warehouse artists' enclave was supposed to be a safe place,
emotionally and spiritually, for the artists and free spirits who chose
lives off the beaten track. An electronic music party had also attracted
many in the transgender community, who had come together on Friday
night, as they did regularly, to dance with friends and blow off steam.
It's
the deadliest blaze in Oakland history, and it counts at least three
transgender women among the victims: Cash Askew, 22, of Oakland; Feral
Pines, 29, of Berkeley and Em Bohlka, 33, of Oakland.
The father of one is lamenting how few spaces trans people have to gather safely.
"My
heart goes out to the entire trans community who feel as if they must
gather in unsafe buildings to experience their community and celebrate
their identity," said
Jack Bohlka in an Instagram post remembering his daughter, Em.
Friends
and family prefer their new names be used to identify them, instead of
the ones they were born with, following commonly accepted tradition in
the trans community. And that means authorities are now also dealing
with an unorthodox situation; one they said they're willing to comply
with, albeit with a few mistakes.
What's in a Name?When
Feral Pines was identified as a victim in the fire, the Alameda County
Sheriff's Office on Monday first gave her name as Justin Fritz, her
birth name. That was corrected later and the sheriff tweeted an apology.
In
an interview on Tuesday, Alameda County Sheriff’s Sgt. J.D. Nelson said
the coroner's office is now identifying the victims to the public by
the names their families — not their friends — ask for, and will note
the legal name, if different, on the official death certificate, which
is the law. Alameda County sheriff's Tya Modete added that department
was working with an LGBT advocate to report the proper gender
identification.
A name means a
lot in the trans community, a fact that was known by most, if not all,
of the creative, musical and artistic party goers at the warehouse on
Friday night.
"It's called 'dead
naming,'" Carol Dauley, an audio engineer and past president of
Transgender SF said in an interview with NBC Bay Area on Tuesday. "That
means their old name no longer exists. It's disrespectful, and in the
eyes of the trans community, there is never a good reason to use the old
name."
Scout
Wolfcave, executive director at the Trans Assistance Project in
Portland and a friend to one of the victims, said using the right names
and pronouns is especially important for trans people when they die.
"Many
in the transgender community don't want to be referred to by the names
they were given at birth, because when they transition from one gender
to another, they want to make a clean break from the past,"
Wolfcave wrote on Facebook.
Pastor
Megan Rohrer, of Grace Lutheran Church in San Francisco, said she
appreciated that first responders were taking great pain to get pronouns
correct.
"I just want to lift up
how great I think that is, that they're taking the time to do their
best, even though it's really hard," they said. (Rohrer uses they/their
as gender pronouns.)
Rohrer
also noted that the LGBT community at large has a long history of
holding celebrations in unsafe places on the margins of the community,
going back to the days of vice squads patrolling San Francisco.
"The
trans community and the LGBT community, when they don't feel safe in
other parts of community, often find safety amongst artists," Rohrer
said.
And
yet the warehouse was beautiful, according to Rohrer, and it seemed to
them that it was a great place to have a party: "That's kind of the
transgender experience. There's so much beauty and there's so much risk,
all the time.
Here are brief portraits of the three women who died in the fire.
Feral Pines: 'Shined in the Sun'Wolfcave
was roommates with Pines, who moved to the Bay Area from Indiana and
was originally from Connecticut. She graduated from Staples High School
in 2005 and attended the School of Visual Arts in Manhattan, where she
studied offset lithography, her father said. She had always loved
music.
"I
had just texted her on Friday, telling her about something I was doing
with my daughter that she and I use to do together and I know that she
saw it, so that makes me feel better," Pines' sister, Amanda Parry,
told News 12 in Connecticut.
And in an email, friend Sarah Patterson said that Pines was a "syth
genius with impeccable musical taste," who was also an "anti-facist" who
was seen taking down swastikas inside the Ghost Ship.
"We
also all had eerily similar senses of humor and were constantly joking
about death, burners, body horror, poop, tiny glasses, gogurt,"
Wolfcave wrote. "Conversely, there were a few things that Feral and I
would always argue about, like ... whether one would rather go to
Burning Man or the Gathering of the Juggalos."
Pines moved to California recently and just "blossomed," Wolfcave wrote.
"She
went from the comically sad basement dwelling synth collector,"
Wolfcave wrote, "to a person that shined in the sun, and moved up and
down the 1, and took in the fresh air and saw all these fresh
possibilities open up before her."
Cash Askew: 'Brilliant, Talented, Unique' StudentAskew,
a graduate of Urban High School in San Francisco, was active in the Bay
Area music and art scene and was part of a band called Them Are Us Too.
"Them" is a preferred pronoun for many in the transgender community
instead of "him" or "her."
The band's debut album on Dais Records, Remain, was released in 2015.
"Cash
Askew was an absolutely loved and treasured member of the Dais Records
family," the label and band's management team said in a statement.
"We
were in awe of her talent, her gentle kindness, and her creative
momentum," it continued. "Her passing is an excruciating loss that we
may never fully process or recover from."
Askew
also was a 2008 graduate of the Children's Day School in San Francisco.
"She was a brilliant, talented, unique, nonconformist student," Head of
School Molly Huffman wrote in a letter, noting that Askew transitioned
to female after middle school.
CDS
teacher Terry Askhinos wrote a letter to the school remembering Askew
as "a gentle, free spirited 13-year-old who always found ways to be an
individual, whether it was in her class work, her fiction writing, her
fashion, her art, or her political convictions. Cash was always one step
ahead of the rest of us and I often held her up as an example to the
class of how to make learning a work of art."
Em Bohlka: Beginning her TransitionHer father, Jack Bohlka of Claremont, Calif. took to
Instagram to document his child's life.
"Many
of you will remember her as Matt. But recently she was transitioning to
become a beautiful, happy woman. She took the name Em. I just wish with
all my heart that she had more time to live her life as she truly
wanted. My heart goes out to the entire trans community who feel as if
they must gather in unsafe buildings to experience their community and
celebrate their identity. Our communities must become more open and
accepting of all people, all identities, so that everyone can enjoy a
great party or concert in a space that is not a death trap."
He
also told NBC Bay Area in a statement he will be establishing a fund at
his local LGBT center in memory of Em, so that more transgender people
will be able to become who they truly are, and so that there will be
more safe spaces available.”
Donations to the Oakland warehouse fire victims can be made at
YouCaring.com
NBC's Asher Klein contributed to this report.
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